Brenda Joyce (Barbee) Lowder

Proverbs 17:17

Please don't say that I gave up just say that I gave in. Don't say I lost the battle, for it was God's war to lose or win. Please don't say how good I was but that I did my best. Just say I tried to do what's right, to give the most I could, not less. Please don't give me wings or halos, that's for God to do. I want no more than I deserve. No extras, just my due. Please don't give flowers, or talk in harsh tones. Don't be concerned about me now, I'm well with God, I have made it home. Don't talk about what could have been, its over and done. Just see to all my family needs. The battle has been won! When you draw a picture of me, don't draw me as a saint. I've done some good, I've done some wrong…So use all of your paint. Not just the bright and light tones. Use some gray and dark. In fact, don't put me down on canvas, just paint me in your heart. Don't just remember all the good times, but remember all the bad, For life is full of many things. Some happy and some sad. But if you must do something, then I have one last request: Forgive me for the wrongs I've done and with the love that's left, Thank God for my soul's resting. Thank God for all who loved me, and praise God who love me the best

Brenda Joyce Barbee Lowder, age 75, departed her earthly life on Friday, July 28, 2017 while a patient at Bethany Woods Nursing and Rehabilitation Center, Albemarle, North Carolina. We give thanks for the years we shared her life.

Born July 16, 1942 in Stanly County, North Carolina, Brenda was the daughter of the late Craig Hubert and Lillian Irene (Barbee) Barbee. She was educated and graduated high school from the Stanly County public schools. Brenda was employed as a secretary with Creative Packaging Company for many years. Her church affiliation was with Lighthouse Baptist Church, Millingport, North Carolina. She loved her family and enjoyed spending time with them. In her younger years she enjoyed playing basketball.

Brenda’s husband, Buddy Voit Lowder, preceded her in death. They were the parents of three sons who survive her.

Left to cherish fond and loving memories are: three sons: Stacy Voit (Susan) Lowder, Aquadale, North Carolina, Bradley Shea (Michelle) Lowder, Badin, North Carolina and Brandon Tory (Andrea) Lowder, Oakboro, North Carolina; four grandchildren; three sisters: JoAnne (Jackie) Hahn, Carol Efrid and Pam Hinson, all of Oakboro, North Carolina; a host of other relatives and friends.

Brenda Joyce Barbee Lowder, age 75, departed her earthly life on Friday, July 28, 2017 while a patient at Bethany Woods Nursing and Rehabilitation Center, Albemarle, North Carolina. We give thanks for the years we shared her life.

Born in Stanly County, North Carolina, Brenda was the daughter of the late Craig Hubert and Lillian Irene (Barbee) Barbee. She was educated and graduated high school from the Stanly County public schools. Brenda was employed as a secretary with Creative Packaging Company for many years. Her church affiliation was with Lighthouse Baptist Church, Millingport, North Carolina. She loved her family and enjoyed spending time with them. In her younger years she enjoyed playing basketball.

Brenda’s husband, Buddy Voit Lowder, preceded her in death. They were the parents of three sons who survive her.

Left to cherish fond and loving memories are: three sons: Stacy Voit (Susan) Lowder, Aquadale, North Carolina, Bradley Shea (Michelle) Lowder, Badin, North Carolina and Brandon Tory (Andrea) Lowder, Oakboro, North Carolina; four grandchildren; three sisters: JoAnne (Jackie) Hahn, Carol Efrid and Pam Hinson, all of Oakboro, North Carolina; a host of other relatives and friends.

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